One week ago today, we officially became PUPO with one of the two embryos that were donated to us thanks to the amazing miracle of embryo adoption! I still can’t believe that this is our story. 2019 was a crazy year filled with so many emotions and changes to our journey. We started the year pursuing domestic infant adoption, and before we knew it, the tables were turned to embryo adoption. Now here we are! It’s 2020 and we are one week after the transfer (or in IVF talk: 7dp5dt) and just TWO days from finding out if the baby decided to stick around.[Read more…]
I AM OFFICIALLY PUPO (Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise) after an FET!
I can’t even begin to explain the emotions I am feeling after our transfer. Knowing that there is an embryo in my womb looking for his/her place to call home for the next 9 months is just so exciting. I never want to forget the magic of FET day so I want to take a moment to document the event and what is to come.[Read more…]
When you have zero infertility insurance coverage, you have to be really creative when it comes to funding the growth of your family. This has always been our story. Today I want to share how (without creating more debt) we fully funded an embryo adoption that cost us nearly $10,000, between the doctor visits, medical testing to make sure I can carry, legal fees, required third-party counseling, ultrasounds, blood tests, acupuncture, travel expenses (multiple 6-hour round trips!), medications, and the most expensive part: the frozen embryo transfer procedure itself.
Counting Pennies and Saving
We took what we used to set aside for our vacation fund (we went to Disney in May 2019 so this started in June) and applied it to the embryo adoption off the top of each paycheck just like any other bill. It came out first.[Read more…]
Part of preparing for a successful frozen embryo cycle means being on a lot of medications, supplements, and hormones. When people get pregnant naturally, everything aligns perfectly in their bodies for that pregnancy to happen. For those of us who struggle with diseases that cause infertility and miscarriage, we have to medically force our bodies into submission.
One thing I have learned about infertility treatment is that everyone has a different protocol and a different journey. So please know that what I’ve been prescribed for my FET protocol may look very different from what you’ll be prescribed. This journey comes with a lot of trial and error and adjustments along the way. I want to share what my FET protocol looks like because I’ve found it super helpful to see what others’ journeys look like! It helped me understand possible scenarios to expect so I want to do the same.
This is my FET protocol medication list from the clinic:[Read more…]
For years, I’ve written about preparing my body for various fertility treatments, for natural cycles, and natural ways to control my PCOS. Never in a million years would I have guessed that I’d get to write about preparing for a frozen embryo transfer via embryo adoption. But here I am!
Today I’m going to share some of the natural ways that I’m preparing my body to be more receptive to this frozen embryo transfer. In 2015, I shared natural ways that I was encouraging my body to (hopefully) receive an embryo following an IUI, and while I have picked up those same principles, a lot more is involved this time! I’m going to break it down by phase.
And believe me, I know that doing these things aren’t guaranteed to make the embryo stick or survive. We can’t 100% control whether this frozen embryo transfer is successful. There are so many factors outside of my control. All I can do is be a good steward of the body God gave me and that’s my plan.
Anti-Inflammatory Diet. Oh, this one is so hard. Going gluten-free wasn’t that hard, but going dairy-free is. I love cheese, ya’ll. Like, LOVE IT. It’s a very common snack for me when I work from home so cutting it out is difficult, but it’s worth it to lower inflammation in my body. I’m basically on a low-carb (similar to Keto), no gluten/dairy/sugar diet right now. Healthy fats, good meats, veggies, berries, etc.[Read more…]
I finally have our schedule for our FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer)! I feel like this was taking forever to happen considering we first started this process in June and had our first consultation in September, but here we are. I want to document as much of this process as possible, knowing this FET schedule is loose and will adjust as ultrasound results and blood work comes back. For now, here is the schedule from the clinic!
- Birth Control Pills: December 27 – January 4
- Baseline Ultrasound: January 7 or 8
- Labs: Week of January 13
- Uterine Lining Check & Labs: Week of January 20 (this can change everything about the actual the transfer date)
- Transfer: Week of January 27
As far as a pregnancy test, I don’t know yet. I haven’t decided if I will test at home at all, or just wait for the official blood test. It’s going to take a lot of will power to wait but part of me wants to cherish being “PUPO” (Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise) as long as possible.
I also don’t want to go through the stress of comparing lines and whether they are getting darker like I did with my last miscarriage. We’ll see. My husband’s 36th birthday is February 8 so I feel like it would be such an amazing way to celebrate, but at the same time, I don’t know if we want to risk bad timing and potentially ruining a special day. It depends on how I feel. We’ve had negative pregnancy tests for both of our birthdays in the past due to failed infertility treatments. I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to test before then, but we’ll see how the dates line up.
As of November 27, 2019, we are the parents of TWO FROZEN EMBRYOS! This is one of the most crucial steps in the embryo adoption process!
I shared about it on Facebook and Instagram, but for my own records, I had to make sure it appeared on the blog, too. 🙂 The legal documents are officially signed and notarized. Now to get the transfer date set! I absolutely cannot wait! I’ll share as soon as I have more info on the actual transfer, but in the meantime, we’re celebrating the addition of TWO snowflake babies to our family name. They are already loved so much!
2020 is looking bright!
My mother was found in eternal sleep on November 11, 2019 at just 61 years old. She would have turned 62 in February 2020. I set up a memorial website in lieu of sending something to a local newspaper: In Memory of Rhonda Alexandria Seigfreid. If you have someone pass away, I highly recommend using EverLoved.com. It’s free and it gives family and friends the opportunity to write comments, post photos, send flowers, or donate to a chosen charity. It was nice to see people who loved her interact on the website.[Read more…]
On November 4, we started our third miscarriage. It was our second one in 4 months. We unexpectedly got pregnant again and very quickly lost it again.
Just like in June, most people had no idea what was going on. I went to Girl Scouts with Zoey. I had meetings for work. I carried on feeling completely numb but went ahead and functioned anyway. I felt like I didn’t have a choice but to keep going or I’d lose my mind. This felt like some sort of cruel joke.
All of this started on November 2, the day before we were supposed to have our chili lunch fundraiser. Yes, this happened the day after our third-party counseling for embryo adoption. Insert eye roll. On that Saturday morning, when I realized my period was a couple of days late, I took a test and it was blatantly positive. It wasn’t a squinter or one of those “do I see a line or not?” type of situations…
So we canceled the chili lunch that was scheduled for the next day because we were pregnant, why would we host an embryo adoption fundraiser if we’re PREGNANT, right? Ethically, that would be wrong. So we canceled it without telling many people why and determined that if this would be a successful pregnancy, we would hopefully still get to keep the embryos we’re adopting for the future, but we’d donate all of the money we had raised to another family in waiting. We wouldn’t just hold our fundraised money for years, that would be weird and we didn’t want anyone to accuse us of using it for other purposes so instead we’d just donate it… pay it forward… bless someone else.
That Sunday, the second pregnancy test was so light, it was clear that my levels were dropping. It wasn’t just a slight difference, it was drastic.[Read more…]
Part of the embryo adoption process (which I shared in our checklist post!) includes required third-party counseling. Without releasing too many personal details, I wanted to share what this looked like for us in case it helps others going through embryo adoption. The counselor we chose was recommended by another local embryo adoption family, so we were able to do this close to home instead of at the clinic, thus saving another 6-hour round trip! All three sessions were completed back-to-back on the same day, which also made life easier. Glenn and I took half vacation days from work to make this happen, and we scheduled it at a time that the embryos’ biological mom was off work so it wouldn’t affect her normal schedule.
SESSION 1: Our Session: We met with the counselor for 90 minutes. The purpose of the session was not to identify our ability to parent children who are not biologically ours. She was not trying to identify how well we parent our current child either. She helped us walk through potential issues we could come up against, she encouraged us with best practices for handling such issues, and talked through different resources that would be beneficial for us. A lot of the conversation was “how would you handle this if it came up?” And we talked through whatever that thing was. I felt like we walked out of there better prepared for what lies ahead. I would say we were very encouraged![Read more…]