On Monday, February 17, we had our “what the heck just happened?!” follow-up appointment with our fertility clinic after our first transfer via embryo adoption failed. Our clinic offers this appointment for free after a failed transfer, which is incredibly generous and obviously very helpful in a time like this. The whole drive down, I was a ball of nerves. Gone are the days of having peace about anything. We went with many questions and bruised hearts.
Oh, and we only have one embryo left, so we went feeling super defeated upfront. I know it only takes one embryo to have a baby, but our track record really stinks so it’s not very encouraging.
But can I be truthful for a second? I am incredibly thankful that we didn’t transfer both at the same time, because knowing our new plan, we could have lost both of them at the same time and that would have been even more devastating.
Also, before someone says “why are you still trying to grow your family this way when it failed the first time and you’ve already been through so much loss?” Listen to me. It’s up to us and God how we grow our family… thank goodness it’s not up to someone else. We adopted TWO embryos and both deserve a chance at life. We love them both. And statistically, your chance of success goes up with more transfers. That’s not super encouraging when you first start this journey, but it is encouraging when you’ve already had one failed transfer. Truthfully, statistics are in favor of your third transfer. It’s most likely to take, and I don’t know why other than changes in protocol, but that’s the science.
So back to our follow-up appointment…[Read more…]