Our last remaining embryo (a 4AB day 6) was transferred on Wednesday, May 20! On the day of, I wore my “I Believe in Miracles” shirt, the Promise necklace given to me by my best friend, Shontel, and a bracelet + necklace set from The Vintage Sparrow. Like last time, I was told to come without wearing anything scented on, so no lotions, no perfumes, no oils, nothing. I didn’t even wear makeup.
Transfer day for embryo #2 was very different from the last one. There wasn’t a hotel stay involved or anything like that. We didn’t make it a mini-vacation. Instead, we completed the round-trip the same day (it was 5 hours instead of 6!) , which wasn’t my favorite because I wanted to relax after the transfer, but I wasn’t comfortable staying in a hotel during Covid-19. There is no way to know for sure how well a hotel has been disinfected, so it wasn’t worth it. Instead, we trekked back home and I just stayed as relaxed as I could in the car.
Also, due to Covid, Zoey wasn’t allowed to come this time. Instead, she stayed home and some family came to stay with her. This was the first time since March 17 that we had seen any family… I’m so grateful for their willingness to come be with her and give her a fun day since she couldn’t attend the transfer with us.
When we arrived, I got my progesterone checked (it came back at 39!) and then we waited to go back for the transfer. I drank 16 oz of water as they requested and was ready to go. While drinking the water, I felt pretty nervous and was shaking a bit, but once we got back to the transfer waiting area, I felt more relaxed and calm about the whole thing.
The embryologist came and talked to us about the embryo and it had thawed perfectly. She explained the cell structure and what she was looking for in a healthy embryo, and how the cells started to expand properly and do their thing. She explained that they did the assisted hatching and that it was in a nice, sticky, embryo glue waiting on us. She was so amazing and encouraging. This was a different embryologist from our first transfer, and that one was pretty friendly, but this one had such a bubbly personality and was so loving. She said she was a hugger and if it wasn’t for Covid-19, she would have hugged us. She was just amazing and a beautiful soul. She gave us so much peace about our embryo.
The transfer itself was just as easy as last time. The speculum and the ultrasound pressing on my bladder are the worst parts, but the actual transfer I couldn’t even feel. If it wasn’t for the ultrasound screen and my doctor explaining it all to me, I wouldn’t have known what was going on. But alas, our embryo made it… it transferred perfectly from the catheter to my uterus and now it’s in there.
On the way home, we stopped at McDonalds for the IVF tradition: FRIES! I don’t know where this came from, but yes, it’s a thing. You’re supposed to get McDonalds fries after an egg retrieval and after a frozen embryo transfer. Supposedly, it has something to do with the salt. I’m not mad at it… it’s a delicious tradition!
How Do I Feel About This Transfer?
Because I had an intralipid infusion the week before the transfer, I went into this feeling really good. It’s the main thing we did differently to prepare for this transfer, other than changing PIO oils and skipping acupuncture. During the quarantine, I did not add that to my protocol. I’m praying really hard that the infusion is working its magic right now and warding off any killer cells that may attack the embryo. I know that even if we stop the killer cells, it’s really up to the embryo to hatch and do what it’s supposed to. Even without killer cells present, the embryo has a job. I’m praying that job is successful.
Also, my lining the week before the transfer was 10.5mm, which is INCREDIBLE. Never in my entire fertility journey have I ever had a lining come in that thick during a lining check. That made me feel really good! Not only is it thick, it’s well nourished. I’ve been very intentional.
Our Post-FET Timeline
This is what typically happens after a frozen embryo transfer and explains when we can expect to be told we’re fully pregnant:
- Day 1: TRANSFER DAY! The blastocyst (the stage of development the embryo is in on day 5-6) begins to hatch out of its shell. We agreed to “assisted hatching” so when the embryo was transferred, this process had already begun!
- Days 2-3: The blastocyst begins to attach itself to the uterus, beginning implantation. My instructions are to take it easy for 72 hours post-transfer, so that’s exactly what I’m doing. Hopefully, this helps with implantation.
- Day 4: Implantation continues.
- Day 5: Implantation is complete. Cells that eventually become the BABY and placenta have begun to develop!
- Day 6: HCG starts to enter the bloodstream. Some people see a positive urine pregnancy test starting now!
- Days 7-8: Fetal development continues and HCG continues to rise.
- Day 9: Levels of HCG are now high enough to detect pregnancy via a blood test!
- Our scheduled Beta HCG day with the clinic is on day 10 (9dp6dt).
So, When Exactly Will We Know If We’re Pregnant?
Our beta test is on Friday, May 29. I’ve decided that I will test at home this time. I need to know if this worked before the beta. I have multiple brands of tests to work with, just in case. Last time, I was completely shocked when I got the phone call that the test was negative. I was sure it had worked so I made the long drive to and from the clinic completely unaware of what was about to happen. Getting that phone call after wasting a tank of gas and several hours of my day was devastating. This time, I want to know. I’m not sure what day I’ll start testing, but I don’t plan to share results outside of my husband and daughter until after the beta.
Now we wait. The transfer is over. We have zero embryos left. We’re choosing to be hopeful right now. I’m pregnant until proven otherwise… that’s a beautiful thing and I’m going to embrace it.