My mother was found in eternal sleep on November 11, 2019 at just 61 years old. She would have turned 62 in February 2020. I set up a memorial website in lieu of sending something to a local newspaper: In Memory of Rhonda Alexandria Seigfreid. If you have someone pass away, I highly recommend using EverLoved.com. It’s free and it gives family and friends the opportunity to write comments, post photos, send flowers, or donate to a chosen charity. It was nice to see people who loved her interact on the website.
We held a memorial for Mom on Saturday, November 16, at my church. She wanted to be cremated and didn’t want a viewing with a casket or anything, so this worked for us. Also, due to the fact that we didn’t have a whole lot of money to work with, we were able to pull together a DIY memorial service that was absolutely beautiful and exactly as I envisioned. It was a lot of work… I see why people hire funeral homes and end up paying insane amounts of money for a funeral to make it easier on them, but we were able to honor my mother in the most beautiful way for a more affordable budget. It was exhausting but worth the work. It felt more personalized this way, and who better to do it than me?
Our church was incredible. They allowed us to use the facilities, they ran the technology, fed us an amazing meal, attended the service to support us, and stayed to help clean up flowers, food, etc. I couldn’t have done this without them. I truly have the most amazing church family in the world.
One of Mom’s wishes was that her ashes be sprinkled in the ocean in FL, so we are making plans for that to happen after the first of the year. We’ve purchased a biodegradable urn called The Eco Water Urn from TheLivingUrn.com. She grew up in Ft. Lauderdale so we’ll head down there as soon as we can. Anyone who was unable to attend her memorial here can attend there.
I’m exhausted from organizing the memorial and from taking care of all of her personal affairs. I’ve always heard that it’s hard when a parent dies, but no one really prepares you for how hard it is when everyone else goes back to their normal lives while you’re left cleaning up the pieces, closing business accounts, sorting personal belongings, taking care of the cat that hates everyone, etc, while also balancing your personal life and work. Not only is it emotionally draining, but physically and mentally, too. It stretches you further than you’ve ever experienced.
Today, I’m going to simply share a photo dump. I don’t know what else to say at this point. Right now I don’t know what took her life and won’t for a few months while the autopsy report is finished. Basically, the wound will be reopened as soon as we’ve moved on. That’s something else people don’t tell you. The TV shows and movies lie… it’s not a fast answer.
So this is for you, mom. We have so many memories, many of which are quite funny. She was a character, that’s for sure. These photos only give a glimpse of who she was, but I hope you enjoy them as much as I do. Thank you for reading and for supporting us during this time.