Nine years ago today, I woke up in a hotel room completely giddy. I had hair and make-up scheduled for 10 AM and a Nashville mansion to be at by 3 PM. The ceremony started promptly at 6 PM. By 6:30, we were Mr. & Mrs., wiping away joyful tears, and very much looking forward to heading to Belize the next day for our honeymoon.
Today, we can look back on the last 9 years married (14 together!) and honestly say how blessed we are in our lives.
Sure, we’ve had some trials along the way…
Unwanted job changes.
Wanted job changes.
But today, as we celebrate 9 years married and dance towards the big “10”, we can call out the blessings:
Although we faced infertility before conceiving Zoey and continue to face infertility today (4 years + 4 months waiting for baby #2), we have a 6-year-old daughter! She brings us so much joy, challenges us daily, and keeps us accountable in our walks with the Lord. We’re parents! While we deeply long to make her a big sister and to add a few more little feet to our family, we can thank the Lord for a daughter who wouldn’t be here today without His perfect timing for her life.
Home Ownership in the Country.
Although we have a loan to cover the cost of the home, we are accountable to no one. We can fix things ourselves and not wait on a landlord to halfway do a job (or not do it at all). We can do a bonfire anytime we want. We can grow anything we want in our 1-acre yard. We can be a bit behind on mowing because, you know, life… without having to worry about some HOA coming after us with a ruler. The home is ours, and while sometimes it would be nice to have someone else deal with the lawn work, leaks, creaks, and imperfections, the fact that we have freedom to do what we want to the home when we want is a huge blessing. We’ve lived a restricted apartment life before. Hopefully never again.
We’ve had a weird year… but besides infertility, we are a healthy couple. No terminal illnesses. No incurable diseases. We can generally get by without having many insurance claims and that is a huge blessing. This past year was out of the ordinary for us, but I’m still lumping it in with the blessing. It could have been worse for sure. We’re still here, fully functioning, and healthy.
Two Cars, No Note.
We own both of our vehicles and don’t have a car note! We paid off our Nissan Rogue in May and our Toyota Corolla about 4 years ago. Otherwise, we’ve always had a car note… we actually own both vehicles outright and owe no one anything for either of them. This helps a lot financially! I don’t expect this to last forever… we’ll eventually need a truck, but for now, this is a huge blessing and we intend to hold out on buying another vehicle for as long as possible.
We have been able to go on some wonderful family vacations, ranging from short camping trips, to the beach, to Disney World! When we got married, we decided it was going to be priority to travel as a family because those memories are priceless in the grand scheme of things. It’s so important to get away from your every day life and have some fun. Because we make this priority, we’re always saving up for the next trip, and it has allowed us to be able to take family vacations every single year. We’re thankful that we’ve been able to do this and create lifelong memories.
It really is important to be best friends with your spouse. Part of the reason we dated for 4 years before getting engaged, and then had a 1-year engagement, is that I wanted to be sure that we were really as good of friends as we intended to be. I also wanted to be out of college and independent before marriage, but it was important to me that we had a long dating relationship because we needed to get past the “honeymoon” phase of dating. The honeymoon phase of dating is honestly very superficial… you don’t really know each other as well as you think. We were completely committed to each other during those years, but after growing up in a broken home with a terrible example of marriage, I wanted to be sure that this was going to be right and nothing like what I was exposed to as a child. We’re blessed to still be best friends 14 years into “us” and 9 years into marriage.
So very blessed.