Today is day 1 of the online fertility conference hosted by Miss.Conception Coach! Today’s post is by Elena over at the Baby Ridley Bump Blog, and she is sharing her experience with the dreaded pregnancy announcements when you’re trying to conceive under infertility. I have been there, that’s for sure. When trying to conceive Zoey, it was HARD. Now that we’re trying to conceive again, I’m basically over it, but I will be honest and say that I wasn’t “over it” until we were almost at the “3 years of TTC” mark. Now I’m over it.
Early on, it seemed like it never failed – I would get news from my doctor that the cycle was unsuccessful, I wasn’t pregnant, hundreds of dollars invested, and then I’d see one of those “we weren’t even trying!” pregnancy announcements on Facebook. I’ll never forget the one in particular that made me sob a big fat ugly cry in my living room floor, trying to catch my breath from the anger I felt. It was literally several months IN A ROW of “Oops! We’re pregnant!” posts and the last one was the icing on the cake.
I’m so glad that today I don’t feel that way. I still get a bit annoyed if I hear from a woman with no ovulation issues: “We tried for 6 whole months and I thought I’d never get pregnant!” But overall, I just let the pregnancy announcements go. I scroll past them like any other post, no emotion attached (except when it’s a close friend, pregnancy after loss, or pregnancy after infertility), shoulders shrugged, and I just move on to whatever else is important in life… like what’s for dinner. For that, I’m so thankful.
Please read Elena’s post describing her experience with pregnancy announcements and how they affected her early on in her infertility journey:
I’m going to preface this by saying that this is 100% my experience and 100% my opinion. This is an extremely sensitive subject for those of us who are TTC and we all handle these things in our own ways and none of those ways are wrong, no matter if someone disagrees with you. It can be one of the toughest obstacles for some and I don’t want anyone passing judgement about how myself, or anyone else deals with this subject. Please be respectful!I’ve been asked this question a few times via email so I thought that I would share a little bit about this. This is a sensitive subject for many of us who are TTC and I have a story of my own that I’ve never shared publicly about my reaction to a friend’s pregnancy announcement. I’ve wanted to share this story for a long time, and I feel like now is the time to do it, so here goes…